Dating younger men
Through the years many have watched, or already understood their mothers and sisters to have a powerful say in how they regard women.
Though a gender gap most certainly remains, there are many, many more women in positions of leadership, who do not back down from challenges, who compete in many of the same fields as men, and who work side by side with men.
My friends and family have always gotten giddy when I’ve told them about a new love interest. And when I tell them about my current boyfriend, and the saucy, yet sweet, tale of how our holidays in Portugal collided and a transatlantic relationship ensued, they practically swoon. Sometimes, they do this weird winking affirmation thing, but it’s always something. By now, I’ve learned that this is both unfair and sexist.
But there’s one part of our origin story that I always save for last.“So, he has this great job in marketing, and we both have a degree in journalism, and he’s well-traveled, and — oh yeah — he’s 24,” I say. If my boyfriend were just a couple of years younger, or even significantly , than I am, the “age thing” (as I call it) wouldn’t even be a thing. The 43-year-old supermodel recently received flak for dating a man 13 years her junior.
Women partnered with younger men, on the other hand, are often seen as “cougars” who have cunningly captured prey, Freud-invoking mother proxies, or simply “crazy good in bed,” all in an attempt to justify why such young catches would be with them — as if mutual attraction, love, and respect weren’t enough.Also, many of the commonly held beliefs about dating a younger man or woman — for instance, that a junior partner may lack maturity — aren’t true, relationship expert and columnist April Masini told Fox News.“There are plenty of younger people who are a lot more mature than older men and women, and who are such go-getters that they're more successful than people twice their age,” Masini said.Today's younger men have had the opportunity to grow up seeing these powerful women – it’s been a more regular part of their experience in everyday life.Because many women work full-time and raise families it enables men who have grown up with this norm to feel less threatened by female success.
By 2009, caught on and wrote a trend piece on these so-called “cougars.” I’ll admit that I’ve sometimes wondered if I’ve just trapped an unsuspecting boy into my web because my age makes me wiser and wilier.